Okay, this is officially unacceptable and I feel the need to say something about it. Meg left Tumblr because she’s tired of getting anon hate and I’m here to remind you that it is NEVER OKAY to send those kinds of messages. Ever. Because clearly, you guys need a reminder.
But Nili, what if they deserve it? i.e. What if they said something I didn’t like?
Well, nonexistent hypothetical-question-asker, I don’t care if they’re the most racist person in the world or whether they’re just one of those people who run comic sans-covered blogs that autoplay Nickelback songs while they post myspace-style pictures of themselves that automatically forward to facebook. I don’t even care if they own, like, and wear crocs. It’s still not okay. Have you learned nothing from the Full House marathons that you publicly deny watching every time you stay home sick from work/school on a weekday?
So what if they don’t agree with your every opinion? It’s better, really, because then you can enjoy a feeling of superiority! They don’t like [insert your favourite character]? GOOD. Do a silent victory dance at your computer, because you have better taste than them. They ship [insert ship that you hate]? SUPER. Pat yourself on the back because you are flawless and you didn’t need them and their poor judgements shipping your awesome ship anyway. They watch [insert show you dislike]? JOY. High fives to yourself for not having to deal with their less-than-stellar opinions in your tags! You can do ALL OF THESE THINGS WITHOUT HAVING TO MESSAGE THEM AND SHARE YOUR FEELINGS. No one likes a sore winner. Enjoy your feelings of awesomeness and move on. If it really bothers you, then unfollow them. Do not, however, send them a message telling them that they’re wrong, because guess what? It’s rude and they don’t care.
I’m not saying don’t judge and don’t hate, because honestly, that would be naive of me to think that you guys would stop just because I said so. There’s always going to be people who say things that you don’t like; there’s always going to someone who gets under your skin and upsets you. All I’m saying is that you should control it and move on. Don’t message them to tell them they suck. Be mature about it and just let it go.
What if they were [insert negative adjective here] first? Isn’t it like a taste of their own medicine?
Yes, nonexistent hypothetical-question-asker who might possibly need therapy because your questions are rather aggressive, because the “an eye for an eye” wasn’t barbaric at all. The truth is, the ruder you are to them, the more entitled they feel like they are.
For example, if they do something you deem racist and you message them with a rude message saying so, they will post it in a completely offended manner, most likely gaining sympathy from their followers who will immediately jump to their defense and make you look like the bad guy. However, if you send them a polite message saying, “hey, so you said this, and I found it offensive because X, Y, and Z. Please delete the post/apologize/whatever,” the poster cannot be rude without looking like the asshole themselves. Plus, they’re more likely to LISTEN to what you’re saying if you’re not ATTACKING them. Maybe they didn’t REALIZE that what they were saying was racist, and you bringing it to light for them in a polite and respectful manner will allow them to see the error of their ways.
Also, don’t think that just because I’m joking and light-hearted in this post that this is a joking matter. I’m being nice, because, guess what? I’m following my own advice. If I posted something like, “LOOK YOU ASSHOLES YOU WERE SO RUDE THAT YOU MADE ONE OF MY FRIENDS DELETE I HOPE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELVES,” I bet a lot of you wouldn’t even care. Oh, sure, you might feel bad about it for ten minutes, but then you’ll shrug and move on and go back to sending hate because hey, you like feeling like you’re better than others.
But maybe if you read this post and find my humour amusing, then the next time you see someone post a ship you don’t like, you’ll pat yourself on the back and go, “I’M COOLER!” and move on. You won’t need to send them a message, because, hey, I’m here, telling you now that your opinion is super important, so you should keep it to yourself. Think of your opinion like $10. If you have $10, you’re not going to just give away some of your money to some person who hates [insert your favourite character], are you? Fuck no! You’re going to take that $10 and buy yourself something nice. “Congratulations, Self. Here’s a burrito in celebration of our awesomeness.”
Followers, I don’t care how old you are. Whether you’re 12.9 or 59, you’re old enough to know that it’s wrong to send hate mail. It doesn’t make you cool to hurt someone by saying mean things on Anon - it just makes you an asshole. So knock it off, because sometimes your words hurt a hell of a lot more than you think or intend them to. It’s just cyber-bullying, so unless you’re actually the type of person to take a little kid’s lunch money or give them a swirly in real life, why should you be the type of person to send hate mail?
Finally, a note to people who GET anon hate: Don’t let it get to you. And I know that’s hard to hear, because it does get to you and it does hurt, but if it’s really that bad, then just turn off anon. Just turn it off, because sometimes, even a lot of nice messages don’t make up for a few mean ones. If you, for some reason, don’t want to turn it off, then do what I do: don’t post them. If I get hate messages, I don’t post them. Ever. Unless I feel like my response will be helpful to others, I won’t post it, because it won’t solve anything. People who send anon hate thrive on the fact that they’re affecting you in a negative way. If you just delete it and don’t mention it at all, 99% of the time, they’ll leave you alone, because they’ll get bored. When you post their shit, you’re feeding the trolls; don’t add fuel to the fire! Just delete them and know that no matter what, I think you’re awesome, even if some douchebag anons don’t.
IMPORTANT NOTE: YOU CAN BLOCK ANONS. Just block them so their jerkfaces won’t show up in your ask again.